HW 58 - Prom Interviews

I interviewed my brother, my friend who just recently had their prom, and my mother.

My brother has never been to prom, and when i asked him what he expected when he does go, is that he is not excited for taking pictures with his date before he goes, but he is looking forward to the after prom. From a guy's perspective he said that prom is about letting loose with your friends who are usually in school mode because that is where you spend the most time with them. He said that he is looking forward to prom because it is like the time that you got to be free of rules, and maybe get lucky

I have a friend who wished to remain nameless, who just recently had their prom in a more suburban part of the country. I asked what it was like, and how it compares to how they have it in movies. She said that since she went to a really big high school, every one was really looking forward to who was going to win prom kind and queen, and that there was really tight security and they were checking all of the kids as they came in to make sure they weren't under the influence and didn't have anything with them. But she said that it was really extravagant inside, there was a lot of food and that everyone was doing the same routine of dancing, then sitting down and then eating and then dancing again. She said that it is a lot longer in real life then in the movies. But she said that after prom was awesome and that she had more fun there then she did at her actual prom.

When i asked my mom about what her prom was like, she said that she didn't go because she graduated high school in January. But she was with that because her high school was so big and she wanted to get out as soon as she okay could. She wasn't interested in buying the dress and going with some boy to prom because she thought that leaving high school and going to college was more important if she had the opportunity because she said that she didn't like her school so she didn't want to be there longer then she had to be. I asked if she had the opportunity to go, would she? She said that she has been to more then one ballroom party, and that she understands what it is about, but she just isn't interested in doing stuff like that.

What i was able to piece together from these three interviews is that prom is all about the expectations. It doesn't matter as much what you actually do there because if you go, and do what you think you are supposed to do, then you will think that you had fun because you successful went to and survived a high school prom. If you don't feel the need to go, then you don't have to, it is all about perspective. If you don't see it as important, no one thinks less of you for not going, it is just saying no to an opportunity that life presents you with, and you don't have many options to re-do it, so most people say yes, and those who don't are stigmatized because they saw something that other people don't, or didn't see what everyone else sees. The point is that prom is just an idea that some have and other's don't.